If you had to explain your narcissist family member in one word, what would you say? Self-centered, egomaniac, bigheaded, or all three?
Whatever you think about the narcissist in your life, one thing about them is true for sure – they ruin the holidays – EVERY SINGLE TIME!
Narcissists and bad parenting / bad behavior are synonymous. The narcissist does not have the wherewithal to behave nor act right. Whatever the day, event, or time of year it may be, a Narcissists knows very well how to ruin the holiday spirit and never fails!
If you don’t want your joyful time of the year turned into years of tears, anxiety and impending meltdowns, follow these 3 simple tips to survive:
- Avoid Fighting Back: As hard as it may seem, you need to avoid getting into an argument with your narcissist family member. Simply listen to what they’re saying, ignore their harsh words, and continue your enjoyment of other members of the family. It is okay not to reply.
- Make “Interesting” Your Go-To Response: A narcissist craves drama and will create it when there is none. Stability is their enemy. Whatever it is that they may say to you, simply reply with one word: interesting. Remember, it’s important to not get sucked in if you want to enjoy your holiday. Do not engage the narcissist.
- They’re Egotistic, Let it Go: A Narcissist will always, I repeat, always feel insulted even by the smallest of imagined slights. They won’t forget perceived slights and will embellish them in their imagination to the point of an unbridled mental frenzy and meltdown. So, even if you might think of it as cowardly, don’t make the bull angry (especially during the holidays). Do not engage the narcissist.
When dealing with a Narcissist, you must plan ahead and be clever for the sake of your own peace and happiness. Don’t let your feelings get the best of you and think carefully before engaging and saying anything to your narcissist family member. Preserve your holidays by using these three simple strategies.
Also, if you can, spend some of your holiday time without the Narcissist around, so you can enjoy yourself and be with the people you really love!
Happy Holidays Survivors!!!