Individuals suffering from Narcissistic personality disorder often lack a solid sense of self. They harbor an over-inflated ego which feeds on the feelings and emotions of friends, colleagues, and family members so that the narcissist feels admired, adored, affirmed, nurtured, and, in some cases, feared as well.
A narcissist, at all times, needs their ego to be fueled with attention, validation, and praise. To get this done, they can go to all ends and use any means.
Are You Being Hoovered by a Narcissist?
Ever received a “miss you” text from your toxic ex? Or a call from an old friend who left you on the verge of an emotional breakdown?
You might be getting hoovered back into an abusive relationship!
After you’ve realized that your partner, friend, boss, or colleague is projecting narcissistic abuse on you and have decided to go ‘no contact’, the narcissist in your life will most likely try to suck you back in with their hoovering tactics.
Remember: A narcissist can’t live without having attention directed towards themselves. They live on a constant supply of anything that would feed their ego, be it praise, affirmation, or any other kind of ego-fueling emotional reaction from their victims.
Since you’re a victim who tried to cut off their supply, they’ll employ hoovering tactics, such as acting repentant, contacting you out of nowhere, declaring their never-ending love for you, sending you gifts, and so on, just to suck you back in their cycle of narcissistic abuse.
Leaving a narcissist isn’t the easiest thing to do. You’d need to cut off all ties with them, block them on every social media platform, and maybe even get help from a psychotherapist to keep your emotional state in good shape and to avoid overwhelming stress, anxiety, and the effects of narcissistic abuse shattering your mental health.