It’s not easy realizing and accepting that someone you love is a narcissist, but what’s harder is moving on and healing from the pain and trauma that you’ve been put through. This type of lasting trauma is frequently referred to as complex PTSD or C-PTSD.
At first, you may find yourself in the phase of denial and shock with thoughts like “he can’t be a narcissist” and “he may have some flaws, but he does really love me” spinning in your head.
At some point, you will realize you’re always being manipulated, undermined, and abused on purpose, just because your narcissist partner needs their supply refilled.
To heal, or to stay stuck in the traumas of your past, that is the question.
Your steps to getting out of a traumatic relationship and getting on with your life must be these:
- Accepting the fact that you’ve been abused by a Narcissist
- Acknowledging your pain
- Understanding that whatever happened wasn’t your fault
- Deciding to “cut off” and “move on”
You must be dealing with a lot of hurt and confusion, but if the journey toward healing is to be started, you’ll first want to actually believe that…
YOU AREN’T TO BLAME.
Moreover, it’s important to remember that toxic relationships can sometimes be addictive.
You may be afraid of losing someone whom you deeply love. If not that, the Narcissist in your life might reinitiate their ‘hoovering’ in the hopes of luring you back into the relationship.
If you wish to heal completely, it’s important to cut off all ties, go ‘grey rock’. Your virtual therapist can coach you through as you heal, and move forward, and feel more positive towards life.
Lastly, don’t forget that abuse, especially Narcissistic abuse, can be intensely traumatizing. It can shatter your sense of self, make you feel invisible, and sometimes even insane. So, although the healing process will take time, don’t lose hope because it well worth the peace!