The most horrible thing narcissists do is that they NEVER leave you alone.
Whether it’s your narcissist ex, a colleague, or even a self-obsessed friend, they won’t easily let you ‘grey-rock’ your way out of the relationship without constant attempts to lure you back in. They’ll follow you everywhere, trying to ‘hoover’ you back into their toxic web. And if they’re not doing the dirty job themselves, their flying monkeys will gladly do it for them!
Petrified? Creeped up? Frightened? Annoyed?
Find your way out! It’s not easy, but it’s possible.
Put an End to Their Stalking
If you’ve been unfortunate enough to have ended up in a relationship with a narcissist, know that their abuse won’t necessarily end even after you’ve cut ties with them.
No narcissist lets go of their victim easily. They’ll spy on you, make unwanted phone calls, send a barrage of texts, all night and all day long, and send gifts and flowers asking for forgiveness.
The doting narcissist may (and most likely has already) contact your friends, family, neighbors, neighbors’ children, bosses and everyone else they possibly can, to “lovingly” spread rumors about you in the hopes of tormenting you in the ways they are eternally tormented, by their broken minds.
I know this is hard to believe, unless you have known a narcissist (Cluster B personality disorders) they may even go so far as calling the police on you with a thinly veiled request for a “Welfare Check”, over and over and over.
They will stop at nothing due to their desperately empty internal void and constant need for attention and triangulation. When all else fails they may further retaliate by damaging your property. I always recommend a good security camera or ten.
What could they possibly want? They need attention and will do anything to trip you up so you collapse right back where you started, back in their sticky, icky web! Avoid it!
Ignore, ignore, IGNORE.
If it’s the flying monkeys who’re disturbing your privacy and causing harm to your mental health, make it appear as if you aren’t affected at all.
If it’s the narcissist himself, remember this:
Narcissists live on a constant supply of drama and attention (good or bad). If they don’t get a significant reaction from you or an equally dramatic response to their phone calls, text messages, and email contacts, they will grow weary eventually and move on to the next victim.
Show them that you have nothing to be afraid of. Ignore them. Show them just how petty and incredibly insignificant they are through your actions. Whatever you do, do not feed them the attention they crave.
If their behavior still has an impact on your mental health and you can’t help but feel upset, talk with your virtual therapist, but do NOT talk, respond, retaliate, or acknowledge your narcissist. They simply do not deserve your time or attention and karma will settle the score with them.
Stay STRONG as you enter the new year. You can do it!